What do you think of going naked?

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Frankly, just the thought of going naked when I was younger (and more gorgeous) would have been enough to get me to break into a fearful sweat! I would sooner have been caught dead. And as for going to a clothing optional resort - FORGET IT!

But, you know how it sometimes happens that The Universe steps in and something totally unexpected takes one of your major 'truths' that lands up taking your neat little world and turning it upside down?

By 1991 I’d been waging war on my body for 18 ridiculously diet-riddled years. But no matter what methods I tried to slim down - the truth was, that in all that time I'd moved not one little bit closer to loving myself or feeling comfortable in my skin.

Ironically, if there was anything I had achieved, it was feeling WORSE about myself... because now, not only did I still hate myself but I also felt like a failure because I was apparently lacking in willpower which was why I'd had multiple failed diet attempts.

Little did I know that going naked at a clothing option resort in the summer of '91 would change so much for me... in a good way. It would do wonders for my self-esteem.

I was conned into going naked!

Hubby and I were doing a round the world trip. We'd bought the old camper you see here (affectionately called Corby's castle) and were traveling around America. It was 4th of July, and all we wanted was a quiet place to let the madness on the roads subside. Little did I know that this earth-tilting event would leave me radically changed.

We were conned into going to a clothing optional resort, a place where .....YIKES....social nudism is practiced - yes you know one of those places where everyone is going naked!!!?

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Now believe me… with my body image issues, going naked wasn’t even vaguely on my radar screen and neither was going to a clothing optional resort. Listen, in those days I even changed in the dark! Heaven forbid hubby saw me and I sure didn't want to see myself.

I begged and pleaded to leave but it was my fault we were there and hubby wasn't budging. He had no qualms going naked and whether I liked it or not- we were there to stay for 4 days! Eeeech!

Here was my dilemma - firstly I'd been brought up in a staunch Catholic environment so I just 'knew' that nudity of this nature had to be sinful. With that background I can't blame myself for thinking that all nudists were sex perverts. So, as you can imagine, I was incredibly fearful. All I could think of was that I wasn't leaving the camper for 4 days.

But damn, peeking out from behind the curtains, I couldn’t see anything about social nudism that looked anything other than a lot of pretty normal looking people having fun. Um... everyone except me, that is!

Hubby was having drinks with the neighbors and their little boy kept coming over to remind me his family were waiting for me to join them for a drink.

A drink? At this stage I thought I'd probably need something like ten double gins before I was getting out there in my 'birthday suit'! Anyway to cut a really long story short, wishing my Creator had thought to give me way bigger hands, I eventually ventured out wishing I was anywhere else but here.

Social Nudism was initially excruciating...
BUT then something changed!

And oh dear - it was far worse than anything I could image. I mean, how do you talk to someone's eyes when your eyes are continually drawn to a few dangling appendages???? I felt so self-conscious going naked that it wasn't even funny. But then what I think of as a miracle happened. Appendages seemed to fade into the background and I started noticing bodies - their shapes and sizes.

Then the second miracle happened.

I’d been to my fair share of 'bikini beaches' with their before and only ever noticed all the firm and gorgeous bodies that in my eyes, I looked absolutely nothing like. I was this fat and disgusting blob!

But here at this clothing optional resort (where no-one chose to wear clothing I might add) suddenly with everyone going naked, I suddenly noticed something I'd somehow never registered before.

Bodies came in all shapes and sizes and mostly looked nothing at all like models. Surprise! Surprise! the vast majority of bodies looked comfortingly like mine. It was such a relief to feel so normal, to suddenly find myself fitting in. To feel so blissfully comfortable and free in my body was the most incredible feeling.

With the wisdom of hindsight, I can say I was doing what humans do naturally – pick up on information that fits in with what our 'truths' and disregard any evidence to the contrary. No wonder my 'truth' that: “MY body wasn’t good enough,” had only grown stronger.

But the miracles weren't over yet.

After a while I no longer noticed people’s shapes and sizes but what started to jump out at me was the depth of their spirit and the size of their personalities. It’s not to say I didn’t notice bodies, it’s just that they became so irrelevant.

You won't believe what changed me

One particular woman really brought this miracle home to me. Here she was going naked weighing about 200 kgs, and when she got up to walk to the beach she walked with such confidence that you could see it and feel it in every pore of her body. I would never have believed that possible!

She was vibrant, she laughed, she was fun to be around, and most importantly, as I discovered, she was in love with herself and life.

If she could love herself, fat wobbles and all – why couldn’t I? By comparison, my body was tiny and yet I was wasting my life wrapped in self-disgust.

She blew the myth that men don't like fat women right out the window. Wherever she went, she drew people (and plenty of men) to her like a magnet. When I got to know her and I asked her about her body image and how comfortable she looked going naked, I discovered her secret that made me sit bolt upright.

"Cari," she said, "show me one holy text that says that 200 kgs makes me any less worthwhile in God's eyes than someone who weight only 70 kgs. So until someone proves me wrong - if God can love me, then surely I'm allowed to love myself!"

Zero eating disorders

Years later as a researcher of body image problems, I came across an article mentioning that naturalist villages have a zero incidence of eating disorders. Wow thought the ex-anorexic me – that’s incredible. But I did know that the genesis for all eating disorders has nothing to do with food but rather body dissatisfaction. So, in August 2007, hubby and I planned a visit to the nudist retreat of ‘Hangin Loose’ on The Big Island of Hawaii. I wanted to see if I'd still feel as comfortably free in my body sixteen gravity-fuelled years later. I also planned to do research with others to get their views about how come eating disorders are non-existent in naturalist villages.

I'd developed a burning desire to understand and share with others what it was about clothing optional resorts and social nudism that so successfully dissolves body dissatisfaction that eating disorders don’t exist?

And in this little paradise, as well as another clothing optional resort, Laguna del Sol, I discover that nothing has changed... it still feels amazing freeing to go nude. I still feel more comfortable going naked in this context than I do wearing a swimsuit on a bikini beach.


I chatted to others who like going naked. They all seem to agree that social nudism:

• does something to remove barriers between people - it removes all the social bumpf like Gucci shoes!

• helps them feel more comfortable without clothes amongst other nudists than they feel in society at large with clothes on.

• allows them to feel free in their bodies

• promotes a feeling of health and well-being when the elements (like wind and sun) can be felt all over the body.

• allows you to see other bodies but somehow not pass the same kinds of judgment on them that happens in a clothed society.

And here finally was the answer to why you don't find eating disorders within a social nudism environment: YOU DON'T GET EATING DISORDERS WHEN YOU AREN'T JUDGING YOUR BODY.

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